Guest blog, my best friend.. My husband " What every daddy wants every mommy to know"

Today's guest blog is my best friend... My husband! Kinda funny, all I gave him was "what every daddy wants mommy to know". I recently wrote a blog post that I haven't shared just yet that is entitled " what every daddy should know about mommy raising boys." Mine was kinda of... ok, it was comical. My hubby took a different approach, of course because that is just him. We are a balance and I love him for that!




What every Daddy wants every Mommy to know........

First of all, Daddy’s aren’t always going to understand what Mommy’s are going through throughout the day. Therefore we must be in regular communication. Not just talking but also hearing; not just hearing but also listening. Responding calmly with mutual respect, forgiving as quickly as confronting.
Second, Mommy’s forgive us if we don’t say it enough of just how important your role is. Abraham Lincoln was right: “No one is poor who had a godly mother.”
Parenthood, but especially motherhood, is a special, God-given ministry that God has given to all mothers. It is a calling of God, a marvelous opportunity to shape and turn lives toward God. Motherhood is one of the highest, most noble callings and one of the most important responsibilities in life. Almost nothing is more important. Mommy’s are the true Super-models!

Behind nearly every great man of God there was a godly mother. It was so with Moses, with Samuel, with Jesus, etc. Dr. G. Campbell Morgan, the well-known Bible expositor and preacher, had four sons and they all became preachers of the Word. One day at a family reunion, a friend asked one of the sons, "Which Morgan is the greatest preacher?" While the son looked at the father, he quickly replied, "mother!"

Lastly, when we (Daddy and Mommy) realize that having children isn’t about us, but it is rather about God, then the trials and sacrifices of parenting are easier to handle.  The issue is no longer how proud my children make me, but how faithful I’ve been to do what God has called me to do.
We must never forget that God has forgiven us, is patient with us, and endures our own failings to an even greater extent than we do for our own children. We must become what were praying for our children to become.  For example, If we want our son’s to be men of prayer, we must first become a daddy and mommy of prayer. Mommy’s, know that you are loved.........Blessings

Guilty Mom Syndrome!

I don't clock in, I don't clock out, I don't get paid, I'm always on call, I don't ever leave the office, I don't get sick days, personal days, vacation days, I don't get paid mileage, and some days I don't even abide by the dress code ( get a shower before 9pm). I don't have any personal space, I get spit up on, coughed on, breathed on, boogied on and some times pooped on and some days I don't even get a bathroom break!

I am a mom and this is my Job!

If I am being honest the last 6 months I have been 100% mommy, 65 % wifey :0, 50% daughter, 45% friend, 35 % daughter to the most highest king :( and 2% me :/

Talk about being totally unbalanced! I have talked in previous blogs about balance, mainly with faith, food and fitness but there is one major component that needs to be addressed...me or you!

When we become moms, we replace the “me” with “ mom”. Perhaps there is a stigma that if we are not giving “all” of ourselves to our families we are being selfish. Thus creating “guilty mom syndrome”.. No really google it, it really exist! One form can be if you are away from your children you feel guilty doing so. There needs to be balance and I am not talking about the “selfish” me. I am talking about the devoted quality time enriched with devotion with God, working out, spending time with girlfriends and being you!

It is important that that we take time for self. Why? Because if not, we can get burnt out, stressed out, bitter or angry ( don't judge! and don't look at the screen like you don't know what I am talking about) impatient (yup... right?) and unworthy or unhappy with self.

The other day, my hubs came home, and I had on my Pj’s, greasy hair, rice cereal in my hair, shirt and the house was upside down ( I know I wouldn't have come home either!) He looked at me and with the fear in his eyes said “whats wrong?”

With one deep breathe it went something like this......
“ I want to go somewhere, somewhere without having to take out the car seat, where I don’t need a stroller, somewhere without a baby or toddler, where I can take longer than five minutes to eat my meal, where the only meal I need to cut up is my own, where I can talk without having to get interrupted and forget where we left off, where I can talk about girl stuff, stuff that doesn’t involve a cartoon song, where I don’t need to say “sit, your going to fall, or listen or come here” anywhere just for an hour or two

... pause to see his reaction....

“ANNNND i need to go soon, like this weekend, like with grown up people, Girls in fact, somewhere other than my treadmill or running the streets!”

And this my friend is what happens when you don’t take time for yourself! Oh man rereading that makes me sound terrible! oh well don’t judge! hahah I love my family however not having that balance and taking time for me, brought me to a bad place. It made me irritable, impatient, jealous ( i know, terrible) lazy and crushed my spirit. This is not the mommy God desires me to be.

Ladies.. mommy’s... the fact of the matter is this, it is critical that we take time for ourselves regularly, if not it will damage our family and crush the spirit of those that we care about. It is a crucial part of faith, food and fitness...

I don’t have it all figured out just yet, but tomorrow I am having lunch with a few girlfriends and that is a start. I cant guarantee that I wont bust out a yo gabba gabba song, or cut up someone’s meal but it is a start. And I am pretty sure that half way through my meal I will get that “GMS” but its a start!

Have you been neglecting yourself, do yourself a favor and do something for you today, something that will increase your faith, food or fitness lifestyle!!!!

BTW is it just me? Am I the only one? If not can I get a “WURD!”

XOXOXOX
guilty mommy!