Guilty Mom Syndrome!

I don't clock in, I don't clock out, I don't get paid, I'm always on call, I don't ever leave the office, I don't get sick days, personal days, vacation days, I don't get paid mileage, and some days I don't even abide by the dress code ( get a shower before 9pm). I don't have any personal space, I get spit up on, coughed on, breathed on, boogied on and some times pooped on and some days I don't even get a bathroom break!

I am a mom and this is my Job!

If I am being honest the last 6 months I have been 100% mommy, 65 % wifey :0, 50% daughter, 45% friend, 35 % daughter to the most highest king :( and 2% me :/

Talk about being totally unbalanced! I have talked in previous blogs about balance, mainly with faith, food and fitness but there is one major component that needs to be addressed...me or you!

When we become moms, we replace the “me” with “ mom”. Perhaps there is a stigma that if we are not giving “all” of ourselves to our families we are being selfish. Thus creating “guilty mom syndrome”.. No really google it, it really exist! One form can be if you are away from your children you feel guilty doing so. There needs to be balance and I am not talking about the “selfish” me. I am talking about the devoted quality time enriched with devotion with God, working out, spending time with girlfriends and being you!

It is important that that we take time for self. Why? Because if not, we can get burnt out, stressed out, bitter or angry ( don't judge! and don't look at the screen like you don't know what I am talking about) impatient (yup... right?) and unworthy or unhappy with self.

The other day, my hubs came home, and I had on my Pj’s, greasy hair, rice cereal in my hair, shirt and the house was upside down ( I know I wouldn't have come home either!) He looked at me and with the fear in his eyes said “whats wrong?”

With one deep breathe it went something like this......
“ I want to go somewhere, somewhere without having to take out the car seat, where I don’t need a stroller, somewhere without a baby or toddler, where I can take longer than five minutes to eat my meal, where the only meal I need to cut up is my own, where I can talk without having to get interrupted and forget where we left off, where I can talk about girl stuff, stuff that doesn’t involve a cartoon song, where I don’t need to say “sit, your going to fall, or listen or come here” anywhere just for an hour or two

... pause to see his reaction....

“ANNNND i need to go soon, like this weekend, like with grown up people, Girls in fact, somewhere other than my treadmill or running the streets!”

And this my friend is what happens when you don’t take time for yourself! Oh man rereading that makes me sound terrible! oh well don’t judge! hahah I love my family however not having that balance and taking time for me, brought me to a bad place. It made me irritable, impatient, jealous ( i know, terrible) lazy and crushed my spirit. This is not the mommy God desires me to be.

Ladies.. mommy’s... the fact of the matter is this, it is critical that we take time for ourselves regularly, if not it will damage our family and crush the spirit of those that we care about. It is a crucial part of faith, food and fitness...

I don’t have it all figured out just yet, but tomorrow I am having lunch with a few girlfriends and that is a start. I cant guarantee that I wont bust out a yo gabba gabba song, or cut up someone’s meal but it is a start. And I am pretty sure that half way through my meal I will get that “GMS” but its a start!

Have you been neglecting yourself, do yourself a favor and do something for you today, something that will increase your faith, food or fitness lifestyle!!!!

BTW is it just me? Am I the only one? If not can I get a “WURD!”

XOXOXOX
guilty mommy!