Cuz sometimes Captain America Need Discipline

So tonight is a little open night mic so to speak.. A random blog.. You pick the content and I write. So tonight is about family. My sister in law wanted me to write about my favorite childhood moment.. As I pondered it lead me in a different direction (sorry Sonia)...

As I mentioned in a previous blog, Noah is all into Captain America right now. Well my lil Asher has also had some challenges with obeying lately. So I find myself threatening to take away his shield or mask if he isn't listening or obeying. The other day I warned him numerous times and well his grace ran out, and guess Captain America lost his mojo! Which bring me to a childhood memory:

There we were driving along in my moms yellow bug, my brother and I were in the back seat (not wearing a seat belt). Didn't have to back in those days. We had to have been about 6 and 8 driving along a street that was lined with industrial buildings. The car was filled with music from the 80's mom singing until it happened.. My brother tried to take away this doctor play kit I was playing with. Then harmony changed and all heck broke lose.

Me: Give it to me
Brother: No
(Playing tug a war)
Me: Give it to me
Brother: No
Mom: Stop arguing
Me: Mom, its mine... ( tug a war in the back seat)
Brother: I want to play with it
Mom: ( hand reaching back trying to break it up) stop fighting or I'm going to pull over and I am going to take it away and leave it here!
Me: (thinking yea right) Mom, stop, Anthony its mine
Brother: give it to me..
Mom: Stop I said....
Us: Still playing tug a war with the package....
Mom: (pulls car over, grabs toys, leaves them on the street and takes off!)
Me: Crying
Brother: Stupid.See.Its your fault (crying)

This story, If I can close my eyes I remember it like yesterday. It plays out in my head over and over again. My mom made a statement that day. She kept to her word. She stood her ground and that's where the toys ended up! I racked my brain trying to find my favorite childhood moment but this one stood out like a sore thumb.

Sometimes discipline is hard. Sometimes its hard to look at those big eyes under that super hero mask and say " I mean business!" As hard as it seems we NEED to discipline our children. When I used to hear my parents say "it hurts me more to do this" (when I rarely :) got in trouble) I thought "ummmm right". But oh how true it is. I have learned in parenting that the more work you put into now, the less later. It is my duty to God and society to raise Godly men. These days there are to many kids out there running a muck, making life hard for others.

Do I struggle? Absolutely. Can I do better? Totally. That day I am sure my mom hurt to hear us cry, till my brother called me stupid and I am pretty sure she gave him the back hand as she drove. But, I remember after that day that my mom kept her word and I respect that. Gods word is clear on correction and discipline. Like a loving father that He is he corrects us in the same manner. Not because He is mean and He can but because He loves us.

Discipline should never be done in anger, it should be done in love. I remind Asher that all the time. I tell him that because I love him so much I need to discipline him. He may not fully understand it now, but 20 years later as he blogs he will thank me ;)

BTW, I think that my brother owes me a doctors kit!

xoxoxo
Mon
"He who spares his rod hates his son, But he who loves him disciplines him promptly." Proverbs 12:24

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