Friends Guest Blog Week-"Waiting" Brenda

Brenda and I met at work, we went from co-worker to good friends quickly. Today she talks about "waiting". Along side her for the waiting process of a child, I was amazed at her ability to be content, still find joy and never complained about her circumstances. She ministered to me in so many ways and is a blessing in my life!



Monica, left a message on my VM asking to be a guest on her blog and I thought, “Really? Me? I called her back and she gave me more details. She asked me to share on “waiting”. I want to share some times in my life when I waited for a miracle recovery for a friend, my loving husband and my beautiful baby boy.

Have you ever wondered why God doesn’t answer some prayers? I’ll admit it, I have and I have to constantly remind myself that I have to pray that His will be done, and not mine. Whether I was praying for a cure for a sick friend, a husband, or starting a new family; I had to patiently wait on God, I trust that He loves me and wants the best for me.

I was early in my walk with the Lord when I found out my best friend Claudia had cervical cancer. She was scared, but I told her everything will be okay….we’ll get through this together. I prayed that He let her live and help the doctors get his horrible cancer out of her body. I waited to hear the great news that everything was okay and we’d go back to doing girl things, but that day never came. Within months I saw a beautiful, full of life woman deteriorate to skin and bone. I waited, but that prayer was never answered, well at least not in a way that I could understand in this lifetime. Claudia died at the young age of 30. I do have peace in my heart to know that she is in His presence and no longer suffering. Little side note, if you have not had your yearly exam, please do. Claudia’s cancer could have been detected at an earlier stage and maybe still be around if she would have been consistent with her yearly exams.

There was another time in my life when I felt that I had waited for eternity…..meeting my handsome hubby. Coming from a Mexican family that believes that I should have been married with kids by age 25….I had long passed that deadline at 29….I had been through many broken hearts and was tired of trying to make relationships work. Friends were married and having children and I was always the third wheel. I asked, “when is it going to be my turn?” I had accepted the fact that I might be single for the rest of my life (I know what you’re thinking, I’m being dramatic!!) but that’s truly how I felt. Thank goodness for his perfect timing…. three weeks shy of my 30th birthday I said yes to a blind date and hello to my future husband Dan. I look back to my mid twenties and I clearly see how I wasn’t ready to be married to anyone. Thank you Lord for your bigger plan!!



Dan and I were married exactly 3 years later on the day we met. During our dating years we talked about how many kids we wanted, their names, and our desire to one day adopt a baby….you know that fun stuff you talk about when you know its a serious relationship. Little did we know we would be waiting for a while before our little family was formed? In five years we went through failed fertility treatments, an adoption that wasn’t meant to be. There were definitely times when I would break down and ask why do we have to wait? This is when my sister Mon would lend an ear, let me cry and allow me to realize that He only wants the best for his children. On May 18th 2010…my son’s birth mom gave us the greatest gift in the entire world…..our son Tyler. He’s been with us since he was 5 days old and I LOVE hearing the word, “mama”. I have a feeling that there is another little person out there, “waiting” for us to adopt him/her. I’m excited and nervous to start our journey on a second adoption!!

Whether you’re praying for a new house, new job or new life…..Please don’t lose hope, be patient and wait…..or maybe He is waiting for you :)